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- Nate Whitson -
"What should a woman expect from a good husband?"
That was the question that was posed to me in a recent podcast episode that I was on with my friends at Ultimate Intimacy.
I thought it was a good one and it made me think of 2 things in particular:
- What makes a husband good (and am I one)?
- What should a woman expect from a godly man?
If I'm honest, it's the word "expect" that gave me the most pause when they asked me that question.
It's the type of word that almost feels demanding or forceful, doesn't it? And yet, maybe that's true in this case.
What ought a woman almost demand that she get from a husband?
I took the question to my teenage daughters and wife, and here's some of what they said:
Loyalty: (almost every girl said this independently, which really caught my attention) "A woman shouldn't have to wonder if her man is cheating on her or flirting with other women, or that he might not be who he says he is."
Good Communication: "He should be able to talk to me openly and tell me how he feels about things or talk to me if we need to deal with something."
Cares About Me: "He should care to get to know what my love language is and want to connect with me in ways that are meaningful to me."
Makes Me A Priority: "He should care more about me than his hobbies, work, or friends. I want him to want to be with me."
I thought that was a pretty solid list, and coming directly from a girl's perspective, it's worth paying attention to.
Here are a few more I thought of.
- Leads his home: a man ought to be the spiritual leader and oversee the spiritual health of his family. He ought to pray consistently with his wife and lead her spiritually (not vice versa - which is so often the case).
- Speaks highly of his wife publicly and privately: never demeaning, shaming, or embarrassing her in any way.
- Serves her well: a man's primary role is to be the lead server in his home, and that begins with serving his wife and using his strengths to serve well.
What say you?
Do you believe these things should be "expected" of you or other men?
Email me back and let me know what I missed.
Nate
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P.S.
One of the primary goals of Get In The Fight is to help men be better husbands.
We're looking at what a woman should expect from a good man, but what should men expect from themselves?
What are your standards, and how are you doing at living up to them?
Let me know what yours are or what your biggest challenges are today: [email protected].
