Break Bad Habits
Build Better Ones
Become Better Men
- Nate Whitson -
I don't know about you, but I am not great with confrontation or anything that appears that way.
It's a weakness in me, and I'm trying to address it.
One of the ways that I'm learning to do this is when it comes to having hard conversations with people.
I recently had to do this with someone I love very much. This person was living in a way that was dangerous and foolish, and the consequences of staying on this path would likely be disastrous for them in the long run.
However, I knew that confronting it and leading them through this may not be received very well and could ( and likely would!) lead to painful conversations, hurt feelings, and potentially divide us even further.
However, I've learned some valuable lessons over the years that I think may be worth considering if you feel like I do about taking on these hard, but right things like this.
1. It's rarely as bad as I imagine it to be.
Like many things in life, our imagination can run wild and make us believe that the pain of facing the trial will be so bad that avoiding it is the best way to protect ourselves.
However, that rarely proves true.
Instead, you'll find that dealing with it quickly brings relief and the ability to move forward better than avoidance ever could.
2. I'm always glad I did it.
Whenever I delay dealing with the hard conversation, it just sits in mind and I stew on it incessantly.
How about you?
Do you ever find that it makes your life better to push it aside and pretend it doesn't exist?
Me neither.
That's why I'm learning to face my fears, deal with it quickly, and remember that I'll feel so much better as soon as it's done.
3. I know God wants this for me.
Nothing worth having comes without struggle.
It's a truth that's as old as time!
The character that is forged in men who do hard, right things like this is invaluable to every area of our lives.
When we face our fears, take them on with courage, and grow from them it makes us more of the man that God made us to be.
Dealing with hard conversations is part of God's plan for our good.
Are there any hard conversations that you have been avoiding?
If so, I just want to encourage you to face it with courage and do it quickly.
I promise you this: you'll be glad you did, and God will bless you for being the man He made you to be.
Nate
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P.S.
What are some of the things you've learned about taking on hard things and dealing with hard conversations with others?
We get tempted to run or delay, but God wants to use them to grow us and make us more like Him by facing them with courage and a sound mind.
If you want to grow in this area of your life, you should check out this course I created called You Can Win If You Want! I think it may help.
