Break Bad Habits
Build Better Ones
Become Better Men
- Nate Whitson -
If I'm going to help you win your battles as a man, I feel like I need to be open and vulnerable with you about my own journey.
This means that if I am going to err, I want to err on the side of being too vulnerable and too open for you in this newsletter.
A part of me doesn't want to expose too much. But if I do that, what good will that do you (or me)?
As such, here's a confession:
When I'm on Facebook and Instagram, I often get sucked into watching the racy, highly sexual reels that pop up in my feed.
I would often resist for days at a time, but the dopamine hit of just thinking of these ultra-sexual women would be so intoxicating to me that I'd often return to them at some point and binge-watch them for far too long.
I confess this to you for two reasons:
- You may be doing the same thing, and I hope this warning hits you hard.
- The results of watching that kind of garbage are worth noting.
Here's what would happen as a result of watching these reels and videos:
- I would always get sexually fired up and want to act out in some way.
- I would get stuck in a fantasy that would lead to adultery in my mind.
- I would feel my heart race and pulse quicken, and often feel unable to resist the urge to watch and fantasize.
But here's the thing that - if I'm being brutally honest - is true:
I really do LOVE watching that stuff.
I have a high sexual drive, and I love the rush these videos provide.
Watching and hearing women throw themselves at you is exciting. (There's a reason it produces BILLIONS of dollars per year!)
But that's not the only truth to be told.
And it's this part of this story that I want you to lean in close for.
My FLESH loves that stuff, but the real me - the Christ in me - could not hate it more!
- Every time I give in to my sin and the dopamine drops, I also feel deep shame for pretending to be a godly man when I know that I'm not.
- Every time I give in to my lust, I know that if my wife were to see what I was watching, it would reopen a wound of betrayal that I've already had to deal with before.
- Every time I give in to my addiction, I hear God pulling me away from those videos - but I outright reject Him (again).
- Every time I give in to my flesh, I make my battle with lust harder to win with every click of the button.
In the end, I know that the results of my actions always lead to me hurting myself, my wife, my kids, my witness, and my God.
Why do I say all this to you?
Because I know the battle you're facing if you're fighting this one too.
If this is you, it's important that you know that you're not alone, and you don't have to stay stuck.
But...you have to get serious about changing your habits and changing your boundaries if you really want to be free.
That's why I've created programs like this one to help men get free from porn and similar vices. (Check it out if you're tired of struggling with this issue.)
But don't be fooled: sin will feel good...but only for a moment. In the end, it always leads to death and destruction.
Get unstuck - don't push play!
Nate
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P.S.
What are some of the biggest temptations in your life?
I have to be ultra-careful with videos and reels with highly sexual women.
What about you?
If you're not honest about your struggle, they will likely continue.
But you can win and be free. It's why I've created courses like this one to help Christian men deal with this same issue.
If you're fighting and needing help - get it today! Check it out and do whatever it takes to get free!
