Better Husbands

Better Fathers

Better Followers of Jesus

Better Men

 - Nate Whitson -

Do you ever feel like you're failing to be the husband you want to be?

I definitely feel like that at times.

Marriage is this unique relationship you have with someone you love more than the whole wide world and yet, it's this difficult thing that you don't know how to navigate very well at the same time and it can feel super awkward at times.

Know what I mean?

I was thinking about this recently as I was challenging men in our Fight Club to pray just once a day with their wives.

New research shows that couples who pray together daily reduce their risk of divorce to just 1 in 1,500. Compare that to the national average of 1 in 2

You'd think that for someone who leads a men's ministry that encourages men to be better husbands, that this would be the most basic thing in the world, right?

But you'd be wrong.

It's hard for me.  

I honestly don't know why it's so hard either.  My wife loves it and longs for that type of connection with me. 

So, what's the hold-up?

Here's a few things that come to mind for me:

Being vulnerable.  I don't like the way my voice sounds when I pray out loud.  (weird, I know!)

Feeling like a phony.  Sometimes I just don't feel very spiritual and yet, here I am, leading her in prayer.  That just doesn't always feel right to me.

Sometimes I don't like her.  I know...that sounds bad.  But marriage is like that sometimes and we're just not always on the same page.  That makes praying with her tough sometimes.

The devil hates us.  Let's be honest:  we're in a war and we don't really even know it!  The devil is against us and hates it when we lead our wives.  So, that means it's going to be awkward, hard, and no fun at times.

What about you?

What's keeping you from praying with your wife and leading her as the husband she deeply wants you to be?

My guess is that your list of reasons may look similar to mine.  Maybe not exactly, but I bet it's close.

So let's help each other out and commit to doing this together - you and me:  let's be the husbands our wives want us to be, God made us to be, and we really want to be...one day at a time.

Starting today, pray with your wife and see the fight against it for what it is.

Then refuse to cower to stupid, ridiculous, holding-you-back fear that's keeping you from being the man (and husband) God meant for you to be.

Just do it.  Make it happen.  Be the man.

I'm praying for you.  Please do the same for me!

Nate

P.S.

What are some ways that you feel like you're failing as a husband?

Hit "reply" and email me back and let me know so I can pray for you today (plus, this helps me better understand what men are struggling with).

Interested in getting better? 

Check out this free Marriage Challenge that I created, and schedule some time with just you and your wife this month.