Why We Fail to Change — And How to Fix It

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This episode reveals the number one reason most men’s change efforts fail—and gives you three practical questions that turn vague intentions into real transformation.

Brief Summary

In this episode, Nate unpacks why so many Christian men fail to change, even when they deeply want to. The problem isn’t lack of desire—it’s lack of clarity.

Using a simple football analogy and biblical wisdom, Nate walks through three powerful questions that help you turn blurry hopes into concrete strategies.

You’ll discover how to move from “trying harder” to actually following through.

Key Takeaways

Clarity beats intention. Good intentions aren’t strategies. Most men fail to change not because they don’t want to, but because their plans are too vague.

Three questions create clarity:

1. How will I do it?
2. When, exactly?
3. Where, exactly?

Real-life examples show how to apply this to fitness, Bible reading, sexual purity, and gratitude. Simplicity prevents overwhelm, and specificity drives execution.

Habakkuk 2:2 shows the power of writing a clear vision so you can run with it.

Timestamps / Segment Guide

00:00 — Introduction + the quarterback analogy

02:30 — The real problem: vague change plans

04:45 — Why intentions and motivations aren’t enough

06:15 — The three clarifying questions: How, When, Where

08:00 — Four practical examples (fitness, Bible reading, porn, gratitude) 11:00 — Scripture insight: Habakkuk 2:2 12:15 — Reflection questions for clarity

13:30 — Closing & calls to action

Host Information Host:

Nate Whitson — Habits & Behavioral Change Coach for Christian men


Mission: Helping men align behaviors with beliefs to become the men God meant them to be—through honor, discipline, strength, and joy.


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Links & Resources Mentioned

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Scripture Reference: Habakkuk 2:2

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Identify one area of your life where you’ve been vague about change. Answer How, When, and Where for that habit today.

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