How to Say You’re Sorry (The 3 S’s)

We’ve all seen kids apologize with sad eyes and the right words…but then go right back to the same behavior. The truth is, grown men aren’t much different. The real question isn’t whether we feel sorry—it’s whether our actions show true repentance.

Episode Summary

In this episode, Nate explores the difference between feeling regret and actually repenting in a way that transforms your marriage, your parenting, and your walk with Jesus.

Using the story of King Asa from 2 Chronicles 14–15, we look at how real repentance moves beyond words and produces visible change. You’ll walk away with a simple, memorable framework—the 3 S’s—that will help you turn conviction into action.

Key Takeaways

• True repentance isn’t about feeling bad; it’s about turning and changing direction.
• Asa honored God with his actions, not just his intentions.
• As husbands and fathers, “I’m sorry” means nothing without consistent change.
• Real repentance requires removing, smashing, and cutting down the things that lead to sin.
• The 3 S’s—Sorry, Specific, Step—make repentance doable and practical.

What We Cover in This Episode

1. The Hook: Why kid-style apologies look like adult-style apologies.


2. The Big Question: How do you know when you’re truly sorry?


3. Scripture Anchor: Asa’s example of obedience in 2 Chronicles 14–15.


4. What True Repentance Is: A change in direction, not a surge of emotion.
5. Where It Matters Most: As a husband As a father As a follower of Jesus 
6. Questions for Self-Examination: What do your actions reveal?


7. The 3 S’s Framework: Sorry → Specific → Step.


8. Gospel Reminder: Repentance flows from grace, not guilt.


Closing Challenge:

What do you need to remove, smash, or cut down today?

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