What habits actually build a strong, godly marriage over time?
https://www.getinthefight.club/7 — If you’re looking for help to break bad habits or build better ones and you want to be the man God made you to be, check out this link and our 7-Day Challenge — an email-based course absolutely free to help you learn how to change and grow and become more of the man you’re meant to be. In the last episode (#146), we talked about five bad habits that slowly destroy marriages.

Today, we flip the script and talk about five great habits that actually build strong, godly marriages. Most men look for quick fixes or believe big gestures are what make a marriage great. But that’s not how lasting change works. Strong marriages are built the same way strong homes are built—one brick at a time.

These five habits are simple, practical bricks you can start laying today.

Brick 1: Pray with Her Why it matters
Nothing is more divorce-proof than praying together. Prayer keeps God at the center, reminds you that you’re on the same team, and softens hearts—especially in hard seasons. What you can do Keep it short and simple (30–60 seconds is enough) Pray at the same time each day, like before bed Thank God for her before asking for anything

Brick 2: Be Consistent Why it matters
Consistency builds trust. When your wife knows you’ll show up emotionally, spiritually, and relationally, she feels safe and secure. What you can do Do what you say you’ll do—even in small things Keep regular rhythms like check-ins, prayer, or time together Choose steady faithfulness over emotional highs and lows

Brick 3: Be a Great Listener Why it matters
A woman feels loved when she feels heard. Listening well communicates respect, care, and connection. What you can do Don’t always try to fix the problem Ask, “Do you want me to listen or help solve this?” Reflect back what you heard before responding

Brick 4: Be the Lead Servant Why it matters
Biblical leadership looks like Jesus—serving, sacrificing, and taking responsibility. When you serve first, you lead well. What you can do Lighten her load without being asked Take initiative instead of waiting for direction Lead spiritually by initiating conversations about God

Brick 5: Keep Dating Her and Winning Her Heart Why it matters
Many men stop pursuing after they “win” her. Marriage doesn’t replace pursuit—it requires it. Ongoing pursuit keeps connection, romance, and friendship strong. What you can do Schedule regular date time and protect it Learn what makes her feel loved (and remember this can change) Flirt, compliment, and show intentional, non-sexual affection

Final Thoughts

Strong marriages aren’t built in a moment. They’re built brick by brick through small, faithful habits. Choose one of these habits to practice daily this week and start laying a stronger foundation today. You’re not broken beyond repair. You’re valuable to God and invited into real change. You don’t need hype — you need the right tools, the right truth, and a better way forward.
Start small. Start now.
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