5 Things Christian Men Wish Christian Women Knew (Part 1)

What if better communication, deeper intimacy, and a stronger marriage started with understanding how Christian men are actually wired?

In this episode, we flip the script and speak directly to Christian women about what many Christian men wish they could say—but often don’t know how. If you want to better understand how your man thinks, be sure to check out today’s episode! (Note: if you want to better understand how your husband thinks about SEX - be sure to visit my channel and listen to Part 2 on Episode #153!)

Today’s episode is a change of pace on the Nate Whitson Podcast. While we typically speak directly to men about how to love, lead, and serve their wives well, today’s conversation is aimed at women who want to better understand the men they love.

In Part 1 of a two-part series, we explore four foundational truths Christian men wish women understood about appreciation, respect, communication, and emotional pain men often don’t understand or know how to address. These observations are broad and not meant to describe every man—but they reflect what many men feel, experience, and quietly hope their wives would understand about them. The goal of this episode isn’t blame or criticism. It’s clarity, compassion, and better conversations as Christian couples. Use this episode to spark more dialogue, deepen your connection with one another, and strengthen your marriage.

Key Takeaways

1. Appreciation Matters More Than You Think

Appreciation fuels a man’s confidence and motivation. Words of affirmation, acknowledgment, and gratitude go a long way. For many men, sexual connection is deeply tied to feeling appreciated.

2. Respect Is Crucial to a Man’s Heart Disrespect—especially public or subtle—cuts deeply.

Tone, facial expressions, and timing matter more than most women realize. Scripture calls husbands to love and wives to respect (Ephesians 5:33).

3. Men Don’t Know What You Want Unless You Say It Clearly

Men are problem-solvers; women are often relationship- and emotion-focused. Clear, direct communication reduces frustration on both sides. Saying the goal up front helps men respond well.

4. Men Have Been Hurt—but Often Don’t Know How to Express It Vulnerability feels like weakness to many men.

Emotional pain often shows up as anger, withdrawal, or silence. Patience, prayer, and timing can open the door to deeper connection.

Scripture Reference

Ephesians 5:33 (NIV)
“However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”

Conversation Starters for Couples

How do you feel most appreciated by me?

Are there ways I unintentionally show disrespect?

When you’re stressed or hurting, how can I support you better?

How can we communicate more clearly and consistently?

What’s Next This is Part 1 of a two-part series.

👉 Episode #153 (Part 2) dives directly into sex, intimacy, and what Christian men wish women understood about this crucial area of marriage. Full episode on my channel - https://www.youtube.com/@nate_whitson

If this episode helped you, consider sharing it with your spouse, a friend, or on social media. These conversations help men and women understand each other better and build stronger, healthier relationships.

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